Even the most confident guys can have doubts and anxieties when it comes to talking to members of the opposite sex. Approaching girls and women and initiating a conversation can make anyone nervous. One of the keys to knowing what to talk to girls about, in addition to staying as relaxed as possible, is to figure out some conversational topics in advance.
The first thing to do is introduce yourself. If you notice someone you’d like to get to know better, take the important first step of making the introduction. Be sure to mention it if you know her from your work or school. You can ask what she’s currently studying or working on, ask where she’s from, and how her day has been going. Keep the initial contact easygoing and brief.
If the introduction goes well, the both of you should be a little more relaxed and at ease, and the conversation will begin to flow more naturally. Personally, I always have at least three interesting topics that I can bring up when I’m talking to a girl, and these topics are designed to hold her attention and get her to talk and share.
For example, I might mention some interesting celebrity gossip that’s been in the news (women love to talk about this stuff). Or, I can ask for her opinion about a friend of mine whose girlfriend (or boyfriend) did something that MIGHT count as cheating… but I want to find out what she thinks. You can talk about anything that you find interesting, or that she finds interesting. Talk about vacations, favorite foods, good movies, current events, pets and animals, holidays, even other people. Share funny stories. Women love to laugh and always appreciate a good sense of humor.
Another tips to use when you’re talking to girls: figure out something that is important to her, or something she is passionate about, and follow up. Get her to explain it to you, and share with you why it’s a big deal to her. This will take some of the pressure to keep the conversation moving off of you. Bring up a question or an idea, and let her talk about what she thinks. Does she love politics? If so, follow the latest news from the presidential race or a hot legislative topic and ask her opinion on it. Maybe she’s into sports, or has a favorite team. This could be another fun opportunity to start a conversation. Maybe you both have a favorite team in common, or you can create a “friendly rivalry” if you’re fans of opposing teams. Does she love to cook or dine out? You should be ready to mention some great restaurants in the area that you love (which you can bring up again later when it’s time to take her on a date). You can ask her to dinner right then, if you feel there’s a nice chemistry between you and her.
Siblings and family life are wonderful conversation topics. Most women has a sibling who tormented them when they grew up, or a sibling who they admire. If she is an only child, you can still relate to her about parents who just don’t “get” their kids sometimes, or a favorite aunt or wacky uncle. Share an embarrassing story about growing you’re a fan of a particular sitcom, see if she likes it too, and you can mention how one of your family members — or one of the funnest episodes — reminds you of your own family.
Talking to girls is not as scary as it may seem. Just keep in mind what girls enjoy talking about the most (gossip, fashion, pop culture, and most of all RELATIONSHIP DRAMA…) and you’ll never have to struggle to figure out what to say next. Girls also really want to feel like you are being sincere and genuine when you talk to them. They are not impressed with bragging or ego. Making yourself a little vulnerable with funny stories and honest conversation will go a long way. They want to talk to a real person, not to some phony persona that doesn’t seem authentic.